Laura Kastner 2016

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Books: Getting to Calm: The Early Years: Cool-headed Strategies for Raising Caring, Happy, and Independent 3-7 Year Olds

Wise Minded Parenting: 7 Essentials for Raising Successful Tweens + Teens

The Launching Years: Strategies for Parenting from Senior Year to College Life

What did our audience have to say?

“An interesting thing I learned was…”

From Getting to Calm: The Early Years presentation:

  • parenting is not perfect, it is ok to be trying our best and hit road bumps
  • to avoid dismissive parenting
  • not to intervene in sibling squabbles unless danger or humiliation is involved
  • keep a positive relationship with your child or you have no influence on them
  • having protocols, do not threaten time outs, problematic praise
  • fabulous how to’s
  • use more positive than negative
  • that self-control is important for future success
  • how to be less authoritarian

From Wise Minded Parenting presentation:

  • all teenagers go through the grumpy and distant stage
  • neurons that fire together wire together
  • connect before correct
  • to be patient and not always “be right”
  • teens act normal as their ages
  • taking care of myself first
  • discipline=to teach
  • communicating with kids
  • it’s ok/normal for them to say negative things
  • what teens are and my kid’s reactions are totally normal
  • to “take” their behavior more/differently
  • many parents experience similar
  • resist the urge to attack or judge, and listen and ask questions instead
  • empathy
  • how to not do nothing
  • think about options before reacting
  • a balanced parenting strategy
  • self-control is more important and predictive of success than IQ, and it’s buildible
  • kids are happiest in extracurricular activities
  • more about the teen brain
  • PFC (pre-frontal cortex) part of brain
  • to stay calm before reacting
  • take time to think before I speak to my children; accept them for who they are
  • the teen natures are more hormonal
  • I have made a lot of mistakes being right but not effective
  • the use of mindfulness on students
  • the neurological aspect of stress-triggered responses
  • how to deal with my teenagers in a positive way
  • co-ruminating/calm instead of too serious


Getting to Calm: The Early Years presentation:

Wise Minded Parenting presentation:

Here are convenient topic start times for selective listening:

0:00 Introduction/Positive Parenting
6:10 Secure Attachment
9:42 Why is keeping a positive connection so hard during adolescence?
16:53 Teen Brain Development
27:57 Normal Teen Development
30:58 Parenting Challenges
35:02 Self-Control
42:29 Discipline Style Research
49:00 7 Essentials for Raising Successful Teens
52:53 Skit with Patrick and Mom
1:01:56 Wise Minded Parenting Overview
1:10:04 Wise Minded Parenting: the steps
1:19:48 Parental IQ on Teen Social Issues
1:25:58 Mental Health